quarta-feira, 29 de junho de 2011

Negative and Positive thinking, Live life

Another story from the book «The Inner Game of Tennis», by Timothy Gallwey. About positive and negative thinking and live the life (of inner game).

«Three man in a car are driving down a city street early one morning. For the sake of analogy, suppose that each man representes a different kind of tennis player. The man sitting on the right is a positive thinker who believes that his game is great and is full of sel-esteem because his tennis is so superior. He's also a self-admitted playboy who enjoys all the good things of life.

The man sitting in the middle is a negative thinker who is constantly analyzing what is wrong with himself and his game. He is always involved in some kind of self-improvement program.

The third man, who is driving, is in the process of letting go of value judgments altogether. He plays the Inner Game, enjoying things as they are and doing what seems sensible at the moment.
The car pulls up at a stoplight, and crossing the street in front of the car is a beautiful young lady who catches the attention of all three men. Her beauty is particularly apparent because she is wearing no clothes.

The man on the right becomes engrossed in thoughts of how nice it would be to be with this lady under other circumstances. His mind races through past memories and future fantasies of sensual pleasures. As he reminds himself what a great lover he is, he breathes heavily, causing fog to form on the windshiel and slightly dimming the view for the others.

The man sitting in the middle is seeing an example of modern decadence. He's not sure that he should be looking closely at the girl. First miniskirts, he thinks, then topless dancers, then bottomless dancers, and now they're out on the streets in broad daylight! Something must be done to stop all this. He thinks that he should begin by straightening out the palyboy on his right.

The driver is seeing the same girl that the others are observing, but is simply watching what is before his eyes. Since his ego is uninvolved, he sees neither good nor bad, and as a result, a detail comes to his attention which was not noticed by either of his companions: the girl's eyes are shut. He realizes that the lady is sleepwalking, and his response is immediate and uncalculating. He stops the car, steps out and puts his coat over the woman's shoulders. He gently wakes her and explains to her that she must have been sleepwalking and offers to take her home (...)»

So, positive thinking is better than negative one, but seems the best strategy is letting go, without judgements or definitions. The third man sees things as they are and act according them.